How to Help a Hoarder: 3 Points to Consider

Hoarding is not well understood today, it is due to the fact that hoarders possess their own reason and logic. Their reasoning is very astute and ingenious.

You need to understand that before you can come up with interventions on how to help a hoarder, you must first begin to understand the underlying reasons for such behavior.

Here are some points that you need to understand to effectively help a loved one or a friend in such condition:

First, learn to build a relationship with the person (the hoarder).

Before they even begin to pay attention and lend their ears to what somebody needs to say, they primarily require to be understood and respected. Hoarders tend to live in continuous fear and anxiety; fear of debauched things that could possibly happen, fear of unpreparedness and fear of being misinterpreted by people.

They have trust issues when it comes to getting their needs attended to and they extremely feel susceptible and unsafe in the society and the people around them.

Before they break down the wall and let somebody in, they require to be fairly valued and recognized for the good intent behind every single behavior they do however strange they may appear to most people.

Second, you need to understand the hoarder’s reason behind the behavior.

Their judgment is primarily about avoiding and getting equipped for the most awful situations they continually visualize.  The only error in their reasoning is every so often that they never thought of considering other possible means of getting prepared that could lead to a similar feeling of being safe even without having to hoard so much stuff.

Habitually, they have not entirely considered and evaluated the advantage of what they consider as solution to their anxiety against the actual worth they are compensating to uphold that sense of security.

They also generally don’t credit themselves for efforts they have done such as the extent of creativity and ingenuity they demonstrate when faced with worst circumstances. Realizing that they can in fact endure agonizing feelings is indeed an immense measure of dealing with compulsive hoarding.

Third, you need to understand the importance of beliefs and trust to them.

In order to help a hoarder, you have to understand that it similarly necessitates a huge amount of perseverance and determination. You need to totally commit yourself to completely and profoundly comprehend how they benefit from their schemes and what foundational principles and feelings lay beneath their reason.

Stimulating those fundamental principles, views and opinions is a dangerous attempt since it requires you to be sensitive to the cues they may be giving you as an effect of their profound beliefs being penetrated.

You can attain a good relationship with a hoarder the moment they begin to trust you believing that your intention is to help them achieve what they need. Be sure not to give them the impression that you only want to get rid of all their stuff.

The intention to help hoarders may be very clear to us, who want to help them but it takes another hand on the other side for the help to be received. And the only way to get the other end respond positively to the help we’d like to offer is to fully and profoundly understand where they’re coming from.

How to Declutter: 7 Easy Ways to Start

English: Clutter Signs in abundance in Holmbridge.
English: Clutter Signs in abundance in Holmbridge.

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A clean home gives you peace; it lessens the amount of stress that daily routines give you. The moment you walk in to a room that is clutter-free after a stressful day, you achieve that sense of comfort, peace and quiet, only then can your rightful rest time begin.

The thought of decluttering your home may be a little cumbersome to think about but it is still possible.

Here are some tips on how to declutter your home:

1)       Do it bit by bit. You can allocate just a few minutes to declutter a certain area in your home. Set a specific time limit when decluttering a space (15 minutes for each shelf, for example) as decluttering an entire room could overwhelm you and cause stress.

2)       Focus on one drawer or shelf one at a time. Learn to focus on a single shelf or drawer at a time, and entirely vacate it. After you clean that drawer or shelf, only put back the things that you need and get rid of those that you don’t.

3)       Stop thinking twice. The moment you’re ready to sort your things out, decide which ones you’ll keep (those that you use frequently) and which ones you need to give away. The question is not “Is the thing still usable?” but rather is should be, “Am I still using this thing?”

4)       Throw away unimportant papers. Most of the clutters we find at home are papers. From the monthly magazine subscriptions you made up to the brochures you received at the supermarkets. Unknowingly you bring these materials to your home and simply place them elsewhere. Try sorting out these papers and you’ll surely be surprised at how much you’ve collected. You may be slipping into compulsive hoarding. You may also opt to sell old magazines, by doing so, you’ll not only get rid of those clutter-causing papers, you’ll even profit from them!

5)       Have a separate box for things you are not so certain of tossing away. If you can’t stand to throw something for the reason that you believe you might actually need it sooner or later, place it in a separate the box altogether, label it, and keep it in the storage, the garage, or any place that will keep it out of sight. The probability is that you’ll never realize that box still existed or even open it again. Then you can take it out after several months to a year, and give or throw it away.

6)       Design and impose a system that will stop clutter accumulation. The primary reason why a house or a place becomes cluttered is because it lacks a system that will keep it clutter-free. You need to fashion a system that will help avoid the accumulation of clutter or a way that will help you declutter your house like, disposing something old in exchange for something new, or throwing away stuff that hasn’t been used for a year or so, or simply assigning household tasks to everyone in the house which they are obligated to do. When you come to practice a system like this, your place will generally be safe from accumulation of clutter. You can plan this together with your family.

7)       Now you can relax and maintain your home clutter-free! After the hard work you’ve done, consider it an accomplishment that you’ve finally learned how to declutter and that you’ve achieved a clutter-free home! Take a moment to appreciate the beauty of your home, its peacefulness and simplicity. And finally appreciate and congratulate yourself for a job well done. Now you can relax and rest in your clean home.



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